One of the things that held me back from pursuing my dreams for many years was fear of failure … and the lack of self-confidence that I needed to overcome that fear. Breaking free from the traditional mold wasn’t easy. I still have those fears, undoubtedly. But now I know that I can beat them, that I can break through that wall of fear and come out on the other side.
The great Michael Jordan once said, “I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”
Don’t be fooled. Even the most confident people have their insecurities and the people who appear extremely self-confident aren’t perfect. No one is!
Even though we dream of being perfect and we see other people who appear self-confident and all together, we have to realize that no one can be perfect. We are all human and we all make mistakes. The things we want to happen in our lives don’t necessarily happen the way we want them to, no matter how carefully we plan our futures. The things we want to achieve will pass us by when we don’t work towards achieving them. It takes effort and self-confidence to make things happen.
Even the most confident person doesn’t become that way by sheer luck. They have to work at it. Someone once said that the most successful people don’t just happen. They must know hardship, they must know suffering, they must know defeat, struggle and loss before they truly understand the depth of their worth.
Everyone is built for recognition, for achievement, for fame. The capacity to be confident of oneself does not happen by chance, it lies within all of us. Like with all other things in life we are just as capable as the person sitting next to us. The only difference is our belief in ourselves and that we can accomplish anything we set our minds to.
A lack of self-confidence can stem from our childhood, is impacted by the people around us and determines how we grow up as well as what we achieve. At a very young age, we already know the difference between being humiliated or encouraged. We already understand when good or bad things happen to us.
During childhood, if we are lost to react positively to negative situations whether it’s due to the lack of, or proper guidance, support or poor role models, it’s likely that the succeeding phases of our lives will become dependent with how things went during our formative years.
However, with age comes maturity and maturity comes from the experiences we go through. Experience is one of the greatest teachers we have. Failure to learn from the experiences we encounter only keeps us reliving the same types of situations until we’re able to see where we’ve gone wrong and stop the cycle of self-defeat.
Improving self-confidence is just a matter of becoming more mature and learning from our mistakes. Everyone has the ability to improve his or her own self-confidence regardless of how we were in the past. What matters is now, the present. If you take stock of yourself and believe that you have the capacity to be anything and everything you want to be, you can move towards achieving your dreams and becoming more self-confident.
The key is to have a positive attitude and remember that you can do anything you set your mind to.
Blessings & Abundance,
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