Remember when you were so confident of having done something then someone commented on how bad things went?
Self-confidence goes hand and hand with positive thinking. If you think positively of yourself and take stock of all positive attributes you have, your confidence will grow and you will soon begin to realize you can actually do and can make things happen.
Positive thinking is not being overly hopeful of something that is unachievable. Central to boosting self-confidence and positive thinking is the setting of realistic goals that you can reach for while not delimiting your capacities.
Normally when we set out to do something we tend to over calculate things and plan to achieve things beyond our present reach. This, we say, would encourage us to work double time. The point we are missing is that once we fail our expectations and the expectations of the crowd that is watching us, we will be discouraged to try things again.
You see, on our initial tries it is not bad if we would set achievable goals rather than confidence, boosting-unrealistic goals that would leave us dismayed.
When you really need to feel good about yourself, remember that self-confidence is largely controlled by the hormonal balance in our body. Thus, you can alter your mood by stimulating yourself to do so. Say, if you have this vivid memory of having been able to achieve something or you once had “cheerleaders” who pushed you to achieving greater things, you can surely use them to manipulate your emotions. If not, then remember the moments when you really felt happy about yourself. Controlling the reins of your moods and emotions can contribute to your overall confidence.
At one point of our lives, we all have been our own critics. Undue criticisms don’t only make us vulnerable to negative thoughts, they also affect our overall personal perspectives.
Have you noticed how we criticize ourselves without even realizing that we can’t utter those very things to other people? We are harsher to ourselves than we can imagine. Thus, with every negative input we receive from this critic, we are left upset and our confidence was diminished. It is like tearing the walls that we have built for long in exchange for a few unjust remarks that we rarely need.
Avoid using over-generalization about yourself because these are the very things that would eventually strip you off your good self-image. Recreating the comments you give to yourself will have a huge impact on your self-confidence.
In the end, destruction comes from within us. Other people may argue that we are affected by external pessimism. True, yet this would only affect us once we allow entry towards ourselves. Thus, you only have to create barriers from negative inputs while strengthening your underlying foundations.
Choose Optimism!
It all lies in our positive perception of our personality, the events occurring around us and life itself. So long as we believe in the goodness that we may have in life, we are bound to enjoy it the way every person should.
Unfortunately, many of us cannot grasp optimism from a life that is muddled with misery, self-doubt, and struggle. Of course, life’s pleasure would not be appreciated if it were not equaled with unhappiness. Pain can’t be felt if all we know is joy. Tears would lose its worth if we always experience happiness.
Confidence would not be recognized if we do not fall flat on our face sometimes.
Life is a gratifying privilege and we can make everything we want from it. We have to start early in building our foundations so that we won’t have to loose precious moments that shall never pass by us again. A moment that’s gone is gone forever but your light won’t even lose its value long after you have gone.
With optimism in life, we would be able to recognize the fullness of our potentials. Everyone has an equal chance for recognition yet many of us fail to share with the limelight because we surrender even before the battle begun.
If you would want to share with what the world offers, you must be brave enough. Nothing should stop you from living your life, not even the miserable demons of low self-confidence.
Those who braved life are those who are confident enough of themselves. Sometimes, we just have to take risks so that we might discover what lies in our road. Taking risks though requires lots of faith in yourself. Without this, you would be like a warrior who has lost his armor.
From birth, we were equipped with all the skills that we will use in the later stages of our lives. One such skill is the ability to face challenges and to face them with faith in ourselves.
All of us has an equal chance to develop our sense of self, no matter our circumstances.
We normally have the common notion that life is unfair when in fact, it is not. We all have our shares of blessings and our shares of challenges. It just lies in our perception of things and the manner by which we handle things.
The same thing goes with self-confidence and self-esteem. Many of us think that the person we are looking up to shared much of life’s blessings because he can bear himself better, he can face the public better and he is much more eloquent and more confident than most of us. Remember that before he even got there, he has to face challenges that contributed to his self-esteem and self-confidence. All of us can be that person, only if we believe in ourselves enough.
We just have to find our own enlightenment to be able to achieve the building of good foundations for our self-esteem and self-confidence. Changes must come from within before we can accept the assistance that comes from outside. Realization of how valuable you are and how beautifully you were created cannot be helped by outside reinforcement if you, yourself do not want to accept this one truth.
Go on, help in the discovery of yourself and that is among the most wonderful adventures you will take in life.
Blessings & Abundance,
Anne Theriault
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It is strange how many of us fail to listen to that tiny voice inside ourselves. There is no biological or scientific explanation to this voice, but we all hear them. An innate murmuring voice telling us we aren’t good enough, we’re worthless, we can’t do anything right, does this sound familiar?