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3 Things I Wish They Had Taught Me in High School

High School back in the 1980’s was a blast.  Yes, you heard correctly, the 1980’s.  🙂 Every day was an adventure of learning, laughing, (at times detention) and building life long friendships.

I don’t think much about the past or regret anything about those years. They were truly some of the best years of my life.

However, as I think about where life is going and how our society is changing so rapidly, I wish there were a few things I had learned in High School, as opposed to trying to figure them out on my own as a adult.

Perhaps a teacher may have spoken about these in class. But I forgot about them or didn’t pay any attention.

Some of it probably would not have stuck in my mind anyway…or simply just been too far outside my reality at the time for me to accept and find useful.

#1 Mistakes And Failures Are Necessary On The Path To Success:

When you first learn to ride your bike you may fall over and over. You bruise a knee and you cry a bit. Eventually you get up off the ground, brush yourself off and get on the bike again. Eventually you learn how to ride your bike with ease. If you can just reconnect to your 5 year old self and do things that way – instead of giving up as grown ups sometimes tend to do…you will see better results in business and in life.

I have learned more about myself by falling flat on my face several times. I have learned MUCH MORE about myself by getting back up and trying again. It has taught me about resilience, perseverance as well as humility. I am a much more compassionate person toward others who are experiencing struggles and yet they continue to try.

#2 Changing Your Attitude Can Create An Insane Change In Your World:

Your attitude changes your reality. We have all heard that you should keep a positive attitude or perhaps that “you need to change your attitude!”. (Maybe your Mom said this to you as a teenager. ) 🙂 That is a nice piece of advice I suppose, but without any more reasons to do it is very easy to just brush such suggestions off and continue using your old attitude.

But the thing that I’ve discovered the last few years is that if you change your attitude, you actually change your reality. For instance, when you begin using a positive attitude instead of a negative one you start to see things and viewpoints that were invisible to you before. You may think to yourself “why haven’t I thought about things this way before?”

When you change your attitude you change what you focus on. All things in your world can now be seen in a different light.

#3 Stop Comparing Yourself To Others:

It’s no secret that being a teenager and being in High School invokes emotions of wanting to compare ourselves to our peers. We are looking for acceptance. As an adult, you MUST get out of that mode.

“Your Ego IS NOT Your Amigo”

The ego wants to compare. Your ego wants to find reasons for you to feel good about yourself (“I’ve got a new car!”). But by doing that it also becomes very hard not to compare yourself to others who have more than you (“Oh no, Sally has bought an even nicer car!”). And so you don’t feel so good about yourself once again. If you compare yourself to others ,you are allowing the world around you dictate and control how you feel about yourself. It instantly creates a roller-coaster of emotions.

A more useful way is to compare yourself to yourself. Try to be a better version of yourself every day. Look at how far you have come, what you have accomplished and how you have grown. It may not sound like that much fun, but in the long run it brings a lot more inner stillness, personal power, positive feelings and peace.

Rise Up and Continue To Shine On!

Blessings & Abundance,

Anne Theriault

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How To Find The Silver Lining of Hopeless Situations

  You’ve probably said it yourself and didn’t really believe it:  the old saying that behind every dark cloud, there is a silver lining.  It’s hard to have much faith in that advice when that cloud is dumping buckets of rain on your parade.  But, sure enough, it wasn’t long until the rain stopped and you were walking in sunshine again.

It’s the same with hopeless situations.  We’ve all faced them when we know we’re going to lose or fail at something very important to us.  It could be your business, a marriage, just a board game or a game of cards.

You’re playing your best, but no matter what you do… losing is inevitable.  Everything you did seemed right at the time and by the time you discover your mistakes, it’s too late. First of all, it’s never too late…EVER.

The game of Monopoly can be a perfect teacher of how to play your life.  We roll the dice, land on the right properties and make the right buys.  But, somehow other players bought better properties and built bigger hotels and stayed out of jail.  No matter what you did, you kept paying their rent and fines and had to mortgage your valuable holdings just to stay afloat.

Playing at life can be a losing battle at times too.  You’re doing all the right things, you budget, plan for the future but failure comes anyway.  No matter what steps you take, it all leads to the same outcome like a bad dream where you’re moving in slow motion and you plod to the finish line that says loser.

You may be faced with a hopeless situation at this very moment and you’ve contemplated taking a long walk on a short pier.  Hey, it’s okay to lose if you turn those losses into gains!

If you realize there is no way to win, learn from your past mistakes, dust yourself off and try again.  If you see you’re going to lose, stop playing to win and start playing to learn.  It’s when you learn that you win.

You’ve probably been focused on the long term gain and failed to see the mistakes you kept making in the past.  When you play to learn there’s always some measure of victory.  Just like in Monopoly, you learn from each roll of the dice.

Analyze your past moves and see where you could have done better so you don’t make the same mistakes again.  There is always another roll of the dice and always another game to play.

Playing the game again doesn’t guarantee a win but it guarantees another learning opportunity.  You may learn you lack basic skills to ever win until you master them.  If you’re stuck in this situation find a way to get out of it and move forward.  Know that you can’t undo the past mistakes so don’t get stressed out over them.  Use them as stepping stones to a future win.

Life is always offering a fresh new perspective if we choose to see it.  We all lose and others have made worst mistakes than you.  Be a gracious loser.  If perchance you’ve never lost, then maybe you’re not living life to its fullest and leaving a lot of money (and happiness) on the table.  There are no hopeless situations when you turn them into learning experiences and search for the silver lining.

You can make yourself believe different things in life. Telling yourself positive things is what causes you to believe them. For example, if you say to yourself over and over again, “one day, I am going to have a house on the beach.” your mind will start to believe it. Eventually, all of your thoughts and actions will come together to make that a reality. Law Of Attraction thoughts are not hard to control.

So, remain alert and aware of what and how you are thinking. It won’t be hard to discover them as you pay attention to how you think, feel, and act in various situations and then wonder where it comes from.

Blessings & Abundance,

Anne Theriault

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Why Most People Cannot Keep a New Year’s Resolution

With a new year upon us, folks everywhere are making all sorts of “New Year’s Resolutions”  or “Wish Lists.”Subconsciously, we all see the new calendar and think of January 1st every year as a Fresh Start or a New Beginning.

Why can’t EVERY day be a fresh start?

It’s a well known fact that by the 15th of January…folks who haven’t made any progress with their resolutions have quit altogether.

So how do you break the cycle of broken resolutions? What’s the alternative?

Perhaps the resolutions you are choosing are “PUSHING” you….as opposed to “PULLING” you.

Let me explain.

 

Have you resolved to go to the gym every day, but when you think about going, you dread it and you find an excuse not to?

Have you resolved to give up sugar but whenever you see cheesecake you just have to have it?

These are examples of resolutions that are “PUSHING” you to do something. Push requires willpower and willpower never lasts.

What you need is something that will PULL you. Something that gets you so excited you cannot sleep. This is something that becomes a part of your every day practice. It’s your passion…it becomes part of your essence.

It has to be something so compelling that you know it’s going to be a gift when it happens. You also have to have strong enough reasons to continue and follow through when the going gets tough.

It becomes part of your every day focus & vision. Perhaps not as easy to accomplish, but once you gain momentum and make progress you are more likely to stick with it.

Is it to quit your job and finally have an alternative income that allows you more time freedom with your family?

Let me give you an example of what happened to me a few times.

As many of you know, I have been making a full time income online since 2009. In those first few years when I may have slacked off, money became scarce. Working from home can make you complacent, as you don’t have a boss watching over you constantly. You need to be self motivated.

The thought of going back to a “real job,” punching a clock, and having a boss analyzing my every move scared me more than anything I could ever imagine. Just the thought of waking up to an alarm clock put me into a panic. I immediately put things back into HIGH GEAR and crushed my online business.

These are the resolutions you need to be making. Make a resolution with such a clear vision it wakes you up in the middle of the night, eager for daylight so you can get right to work on whatever it is you hunger for.

So find something that PULLS you, create a vision, believe in yourself take action, see results, review it every day and I guarantee the cycle of “Broken” New Year’s Resolutions will cease to exist.

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Blessings & Abundance,

Anne Theriault

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Cleaning Up the Negativity in Your Life

 

As a solo entrepreneur, you need all of the positive mindset you can get. When self doubt and negativity creeps in, it can cause you to panic and reverse course – stopping you from ever achieving your dreams.

 

Seeds of negativity are constantly being sewn in your life, and it’s up to you to spot and weed them out as soon as they take root. If you leave these influences to flourish, it will someday feel out of control and you won’t know how to get back to a place that’s manageable.

 

Eliminating Inner Negative Self Talk

 

Aside from all of the outside influences, which we’ll discuss in a moment, one of the biggest negative factors stems from your own mindset. You’re trashing your decisions and never giving yourself a chance to succeed.

 

Part of why we do this is self preservation. We want to be smart about everything. If we predict failure, and it comes true – then we’re insightful and it won’t sting as much as if we had falsely pinned our hopes on success.

 

You might say things like, “No one will want to listen to me in this niche – look at all the other experts out there who are much better than me!” Or you might start to make a video blog and see yourself in the camera and turn it right off, picking on yourself for being too fat, too old, or not handsome or pretty enough.

 

You might just lightly criticize yourself, doubting your decisions on which niche to choose or what kind of business model you want to implement. And every time something goes awry (as it does for all marketers), you beat yourself up brutally, calling yourself stupid.

 

Sometimes your negativity is with other people. There are thousands of people working toward online success who do nothing but blame others for their failures. Everyone “scams” them.

 

They tell themselves nothing works. Other marketers are liars. Basically, they’re saying these negative things because they couldn’t get it to work, so instead of shouldering the blame and working out any issues – it’s easier if they just say it’s someone else’s fault.

 

The first thing you have to do is be honest about how negative you are. Start to recognize if you call yourself names (or other marketers). Then correct yourself in mid-sentence.

 

If you say, “Ugh! I’m so stupid for not realizing that,” stop and say, “Actually, I’m learning and giving it everything I’ve got, so I’m still proud of myself for trying, even if I made an error this time.”

 

You have to replace the negative with the positive. You can’t just stop saying the negative – you want to put yourself on the path to success and productivity. Practice positive affirmations if you want to – but don’t copy any from the Internet. Make up your own so that your affirmation sounds like something you’d say.

 

Dealing with Negative Family Members

 

Once you get your own mind sorted out, you’ll be dealing with those closest to you. Family members can wreak havoc on your success just by being negative about your efforts – or about life in general.

 

It’s hard to wake up positive and motivated every day when you’re around someone who drags you down in life. It’s worse when they direct their negativity toward you. So as an entrepreneur, you’ll hear a lot of that.

 

You spouse might say, “You still haven’t made any money yet?” Your in-laws (or even your own parents might say, “When are you going to get a real job?” You might have aunts, uncles, and cousins who chime in to make fun of your journey if you happen to share it with them.

 

It hurts to not be fully supported – especially by loved ones who should be the very people cheering you on. There’s nothing that can stop that pain, but you can decide whether or not you’ll put up with it and let it affect your progress.

 

Keep in mind that negativity often isn’t about you. The person can be a miserable man or woman in general – always complaining about the weather, their job, the traffic, and so on.

 

Even these little irritations can sabotage you with work because you’re constantly trying to make them feel more positive and cheer them up. It’s very toxic being around negative people on a regular basis.

 

Why do your loved ones act negatively toward your dreams? Well, some of them honestly think they’re trying to help. They assume your pursuit of an online income is ridiculous (because they don’t understand it), so they try to save you from yourself.

 

Others are just the kind of people who aren’t happy unless someone else is the target of their misgivings. With these people, you can either limit your time with them, or learn how to deflect the criticism – and that includes keeping your entire journey to yourself.

 

If they ask what it is you’re doing for a job, you tell them you’re studying a new career and you’ll let them know when you make a firm decision. Or just smile coyly and let them keep wondering.

 

Really, it’s not anyone else’s business what you’re doing. It’s your decision. You need to take back control of what’s shared and what’s available to the public for the gossip mill. A corporation would never disclose all of their pursuits, and you don’t have to, either!

 

Handling Negative Friendships

 

Friendships are very treasured to many people – like a second family of sorts. But friends can also be casual acquaintances. Either way, you’re likely going to encounter well-meaning (or not) friends who disparage what you’re doing.

 

Again, it’s not always about you. Sometimes these friends are just negative, miserable people. They call you up to unload their problems on you. That’s fine, until it becomes something that puts you in a sour mindset.

 

Other times, what they say does have to do with you. They might tell you that it’s ridiculous to waste time with online work – that they heard it was all a scam. Again, this is simple ignorance.

 

Why do people who are supposed to have your back try to cripple your progress? Sometimes, like your family, they mean well – and they think they’re saving you from making a big mistake.

 

Other times, it’s a jealousy issue with friends. Maybe they hate their job and they wish they could do what it is you’re doing. Maybe they feel more qualified than you, and wish they had the guts to pursue an online income.

 

So what comes out of their mouths isn’t supportive and well-meaning. It’s a cheap shot, aimed at defeating your mindset so that you’ll get on par with everyone else and they won’t have to feel bad about their own decisions.

 

You have to set firm boundaries with people – whether they’re minor acquaintances or long-time friends. Let them know that you’re proud of what it is that you’re doing and if they can’t be supportive, then the issue will be off the table for further discussions.

 

Don’t try to explain every element on being an online entrepreneur to someone who puts it down. They won’t understand because they don’t want to. You’ll be wasting your time and end up frustrated.

 

Instead, set boundaries, and if they continue invading your space about the issue, make a decision about whether or not you need to have this person staying in your life any longer.

 

Weeding Out Your Negative Network

 

You may think that as long as you keep yourself and those closest to you in real life, you’ll be well on your way to a positive mindset. Unfortunately, as solo entrepreneurs, we often rely on our online support network to achieve success.

 

Your network can consist of customers, affiliates and joint venture partners. Everywhere you turn, you’ll be inundated with people who like to harp on what’s wrong, instead of what’s right.

 

Even friends you make online – who you’ve never met in person – can drain you if you let them. Take time to analyze who you’re surrounding yourself with. You want to be positioned with people who have the same positive career goals as yourself.

 

Check out people’s Facebook page, their Twitter and blog. Do you see a pattern of rants and whining – complaints and just the tendency to put a damper on everyone’s good mood on a regular basis?

 

There are people like this who just spend all day mired in what’s wrong, rather than focusing on what could be right. Sometimes, if you’re not careful, it can rub off on you and you’ll notice yourself agreeing with them.

 

Others will buy one shiny new object after another, and because they don’t fully implement a product or course, repeatedly fail. They won’t chalk it up to personal responsibility, though.

 

It will be the fault of the seller. You don’t want to attach yourself to people like this who suck the life out of every day from the moment you log online. You don’t have to be surrounded by people who are nothing but positive, either – but being one sided is never okay.

 

Replace all of those Negative Nellies with positive influences. You can unfollow someone on Facebook, and yet still remain their friend. They’ll never know, so no feelings will be hurt, and you’ll set yourself free from the sadness and anger they like to spew about how they feel mistreated.

 

You have to be especially careful when you try motivating others. Some people make it a goal to prove you wrong. So if you’re cheerful and positive, they’ll make it their mission to make you see their truth.

 

Others will latch onto you and, since they’re drowning in a bad attitude, use every drop of positivity you have to offer just to keep their head above water. Never-mind the fact that they’re pulling you under with them.

 

Make Positivity Your New Mantra

 

As you begin weeding out all of this negative influence – in real life and online – you have to replace it with something that will benefit you. The first thing you want to do is make positivity a way of life for you.

 

That means in your parenting, in your relationship, in your finances, in your fitness – everywhere. Not just business. If you try to only stay positive in your career, it will be hard to stay afloat because the rest of your world feels like it’s crumbling.

 

Make sure you regularly weed out the toxic influences in your life. When you stay aware of how other people affect your own mindset, you can then make a plan of action on how to handle them.

 

Will they simply be tuned out whenever you encounter them? Will you set boundaries and keep them at arm’s length? Or is the influence so troubling that it’s in your best interest to close the door on that interaction completely?

 

Aside from stopping yourself from saying negative things and replacing them with good thoughts, work on other ways to continually let go of negativity and find the silver lining in every moment.

 

You might make a gratitude journal and keep it until you begin automatically noticing what’s good more than you do what’s bad. Some journals have uplifting quotes or sayings in them to help you start (or end) your day on the right foot.

 

Put the focus of each day on helping others. When you work on being positive with other people, it helps you feel good on regular basis. Reach out to others and help them  whenever possible.

 

Do things that promote positive energy, like laughing. Watch comedies instead of dark horror or dramas. Turn off the news. It can be depressing and make you feel like everything’s going wrong, all of the time.

 

Engage in meditation, yoga, guided visual imagery or other practices that can deliver peace and calm to your day and quiet the chaos that comes from hearing everyone panicked and angry.

 

Cleaning up the negativity in your life will be an on-going process that doesn’t happen overnight. But once you’re able to spot people who aren’t good for you, you’ll begin to see that you achieve more and enjoy your career more than ever before.

Blessings & Abundance,

Anne Theriault

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How To Achieve Your Greatest Desire In 2017


With the New Year Just a few days away, people everywhere are thinking of changes or resolutions they want to make their lives better in 2017.

As the year comes to a close, I wanted to share a personal story with you, in the hopes that it may help you achieve your greatest desire in 2017.

FIRST, You need to understand and identify your Core Desire.

What is a core desire?

Core Desires are those things you want with all your heart. They are deep, intense, and powerful longings. They are persistent, ever- demanding, heartfelt hungers or yearnings that pierce you to the very core. One easy way to identify them is that they are always tied to a very strong emotion in your heart.

In 2006 I discovered my core desire in the simplest way possible. I simply looked in the mirror one day and it was staring me in the face.

It’s called…Pain.

Pain that is so great you are willing to do or sacrifice anything that will alleviate the agony. Although I had a good career as a medical professional, there was an intense and painful burning in my soul when I got up every morning to go to work.

I wanted more for myself. There was something missing. I wanted to be able to make a difference, to be free of the frustration that came with punching a time clock.

August 1st, 2006 I took a leap of faith and walked away from my 18 career without a plan. I was finally free and my heart was happy again. That was a very good day.

I was reconnected with one of my dearest High School friends shortly after. As we enjoyed each others company over a 3 hour lunch, she asked me a question that took me back to a place that psychologically, I have avoided to revisit.

She said “Anne, what made you decide to leave your career at the hospital and start your own business?”

Truth be told, I left for countless reasons. If I were asked to pin down the deciding factor, it would be that I didn’t like the person I had allowed myself to become. I couldn’t stand to look at myself in the mirror every day, knowing I had permitted myself to get to such a point.

Along with the tremendous support of my family, and a very special person who entered my life at that tumultuous time, I gained the courage to leave my job, and make the necessary changes, which commenced the amazing journey of taking me to the place I am today. I had people who believed in me…even when I didn’t believe in myself.

“What you get by reaching your goals, is not nearly as important as the person you become by reaching them.” ~ Zig Ziglar

But…this post is not about me…it’s about you. It’s about helping you determine if what you aspire for yourself and for your future, supersedes any obstacles you will encounter on your journey.

First you must ask yourself these 5 simple words…”What Is My Core Desire?”

Is it to Retire at an early age?

Maybe you want to see all that our beautiful World has to offer…

Perhaps you’re waiting for the day you can “Fire Your Boss.”

Is it that you never again, want to be revolted by the person looking back at you in the mirror every day?

Whatever your Core desire is, it will be your #1 reason to succeed. Your Core desire will be the reason you fly out of bed in the morning, not wanting to waste another minute of a brand new day. Your daily decisions will be based on your Core desire. Your Core desire will consume every part of who you are, and what you become.

I took many chances and sacrificed more things than I allow myself to admit. I traveled, or I didn’t travel, I dated or I didn’t date…based on my Core desire. I made decisions such as selling personal possessions in order to invest in myself, with things such as self-education, and books on personal growth. I discarded lifelong friendships whose only contribution to my life at that point had been a daily dose of their negative energy. My Core desire dominated my life with a sense of urgency. My focus and energy became so intense, it dominated my every thought and my every action.

My Core desire won out over everything else…and made the difference between success and failure.

So if you have any doubts and are still wondering if you have what it takes to reach your Core desire, just ask yourself if you are willing to sacrifice, or not to sacrifice, to change, or not to change those stable, cozy and comfortable aspects of your everyday life.

And if you need someone to believe in you, I believe in you…

There isn’t any doubt, that each and every one of us possesses a Core desire. The doubt lies in whether we are willing to change our lives and ourselves… to attain them.

You are a unique and amazing person my friend. You are blessed with many talents and gifts to share with the world.

My wish for you is to be that person – The World is waiting for your greatness. 🙂

Blessings & Abundance,

Anne Theriault

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